Self-sabotage is a combination of thoughts, feelings, and actions that create a roadblock to success by working against your own self-interests.
Well DUH!! I think we all know that. But there’s more to it.
• Fear of success. Deep inside, there can be numerous reasons you do not want to succeed. These are referred to as limiting beliefs. You must overcome these limiting beliefs and break free from your fear of success.
• Unworthiness. Unworthiness is the belief or feeling that you do not deserve success. This is due to low self-esteem and or a poor self-image. Build your self-esteem and realize that you are not only worthy of success, but it is your right to live in abundance and pursue happiness.
• Lack of belief in abilities. Do you not believe that you have what it takes to succeed? Do you think your goals are too far-fetched or unrealistic? Rather than lower your goals, increase your self-confidence and convince yourself that you will do what it takes and you will succeed.
• Working against true desires. Unfortunate are those who never figure out what their true desires in life are. These are the people who think they know what they want, but never end up getting it due to self-sabotage. Well known examples are college drop-outs who choose majors based on what a parent wants them to do or employees who work for paychecks rather than the love of the work. Take the time to find out what you really want out of life and write it down.
Okay. Now that I clearly know what I’m fighting, I need to find the tools to fight it.
Gee. To my surprise, one of the key tools to overcome this is Dialectic Behaviour Therapy (DBT). Hmm. Never heard of that one before (dripping with sarcasm in case you weren’t sure!!!)
Why does it seem everything in my life these days comes back around to DBT???
Having problems coping with the room mate and his extreme emotions? Distress tolerance techniques from DBT will help…
Having self sabotage issues? Guess what! DBT again!
Okay, time to stop running from it. I need to face these issues head on.
But I’m terrified to. What if I really try to do this, and fail at it? What if I have a complete emotional breakdown while trying to overcome these issues?
So what? You can go back to Calgary and have your family take care of you for awhile while you recover. Might not be the end of the world. In fact, it may be what you need in your life right now. You certainly don’t need this crap…
Besides. Let’s be honest. You are not likely to have a complete breakdown. Fitness and small steps towards reaching your goals will give you the strength to fight back against all of it.
But what if I can’t possibly cross that finish line in 6.5hours?
Are you kidding me? Okay, lets say you hurt yourself on the course, and just can’t do it. So what. Finish anyway.
YOU CAN CROSS THAT FINISH LINE.
Remember how you felt before the Canmore Half? Same thing. And what happened? You finished even faster than you thought possible. Remember that? Remember how great that felt?
YOU CAN CROSS THAT FINISH LINE NO MATTER WHAT.
Okay, so the mountain ahead of me is too high. At least from this view it is.
I’m going to do myself two favors.
Re-organize my training schedule. In fact, to make this even easier on me, I may just use the PersonalRunningTrainer marathon program. I already have it. I can do it.
And I’m going to stop thinking about the goal. Instead, focus on that training week. Even that training day. Period.
The second part to this is nutrition. If I'm going to keep my training schedule simple, I'll be able to put some effort into my nutrition to fuel these runs. I think that's the way to go.
Find ways to separate myself from my room mate more, without upsetting him. I can tell him I’m focusing on my running. Easy enough to do. Just get dressed for a run and walk away from the house. Even if I’ve already got my fitness in, I can get out and go for coffee without him. I need more autonomy from him right now. If that doesn’t work, I can always move out.